A few weeks ago my friend sent me a PDF file of Hitler pictures. Lots of Hitler pictures, many showing the way Germany’s leader drew masses of people. And it got me to thinking about the personal power he had; his capacity to convince so many souls to follow him, or fear him. Had he been a benevolent leader, think of the positive changes he could have made. But we know his story, and that’s not what I’m writing about.
I’m writing about YOUR personal power, and mine. I’m writing about what it is, and how we get it. And I’m writing about how we lose it.
First, what IS personal power? In my opinion, person power is our ability to get what we want.
If it takes others to help us get it, we must convince them to support us. Why do some people have that skill and others don’t?
But that’s not a fair question. All of us get help along the way and acquire things. It’s the DEGREE of achievement that sets apart one person from another.
Yes, some people have the ability to sway huge masses of people, from a fan club to a workforce to a nation? How do they do that? How do some people become the best in the world? Of course it’s practice and determination. But that’s not enough. There’s something else that the very best winners have, and do. And here’s what it is:
WORLD LEADERS in politics, sports, entertainment, finance, religion, whatever, rise to the top because they BELIEVE they deserve it. They BELIEVE they can achieve it. And they have confidence about their beliefs. Then they do what they do, say what they say, practice-practice-practice, and they never give up.
I’m sure many of you have read or heard this message before. But it’s worth being reminded. Achieving anything, whether it’s power, fame, riches, or love, is a head trip. It’s a concept. And it takes FAITH to believe you have it before you have it…or denial, or conceit, or greed, or lust, or tranquility or fearlessness or passion. To win, it takes a narrow, emotionally charged focus of attention without every questioning the outcome. The moment DOUBT enters the mind, the potential goal moves further away, and the more difficult it is to convince others that your vision supersedes theirs.
Belief and confidence – that’s it.
TIGER WOODS, from the little I know about him, was raised to believe he could excel in golf. And we know he did. For years there was Tiger Woods, and everyone else on the course behind him. And then…came his fall from grace. He was publicly pilloried, ridiculed and humiliated for his philandering and sexual cheating. And what happened to his golf game? He lost it. He lost his ability to win. But what else did he lose? He lost his ability to focus on the game. He lost the belief that he was a winner, that he DESERVED TO BE A WINNER. And then his confidence broke down.
Very little of value can be created without confidence. Yet for every Tiger Woods there’s a come-back story!
So how do you restore CONFIDENCE when you’ve lost it, or never had it? You build confidence by never giving up. You just keep trying, and eventually, you get a single baby-step success, which gives you the incentive to try again. When another small success is achieved, you can look back and say, “Humm, maybe I can do this. I should keep going.” And you do. Bigger goals are reached, which lets you believe that it’s not impossible to rise!
Whether you believe you can win or not, you’ve got to get your butt out of bed and look at your cards!
Everyone has cards. Play them! And here’s a secret that will get you to the game.
Just playing is winning.
Yep! Because if you were scared to play for the fear of rejection, but you got yourself filling out that resume or writing that first chapter, or entering that contest, THAT in itself builds confidence. THAT is achievement! And the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
I can now make cold calls without my palms sweating! I may not land the job, but if I’ve made that conversation pleasant for the other person on the line, those few minutes alone will be a reward, for both of us. And it won’t be forgotten. The process then becomes the prize. And the bigger one comes later.
When I’m not blogging and writing under the name of Irving Podolsky, I work in the Hollywood as a freelance something else. I’m in the soup watching everyone, and I can tell you all the players in film business are looking for the job, the movie, or the money for the movie. And once they get the money, and the movie gets made, they’re looking for the audience. Everybody needs everybody else, and we’re all calling each other! If we didn’t believe that at some point, somebody would say YES to our wants, no movies would get made. Nothing would get made.
And so big movies get made. Little movies get made with large audiences and small audiences going to see them.
How important to you is the SCALE OF WINNING? When it comes to our own personal power, is making the cover of People Magazine more influential, more important, more relevant than coaxing a small group a friends to join you on a camping trip? Maybe. Probably. But are you LESS a person if you’re not famous? No. Are you less powerful? No. And here’s why.
Because you really do have the power to become and have anything you want. It’s just a question of belief. If you haven’t gotten more, it’s because something inside you has said it’s difficult to achieve.
Of course some people have many more advantages than others. Some people are born into poverty. Some people are orphans. Some people are born into modern day slavery. And yet, for every one of those horrible conditions we hear of success stories where an individual pulls himself of herself out of the slum. And we love those stories. They give up hope!
Anything is possible if you BELIEVE it is. It’s the magic of life.