Category Archive: A Life Lesson

Dec
11

WHY BAD PEOPLE DO NICE THINGS

Why do bad people do nice things? I don’t know why. They just do, at least the ones I personally know, the ones I call “friends”. They’re not close friends, thought. When they invite my wife and me to their homes, it’s just us and them. Our bad friends don’t mingle us with their other …

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Nov
16

I don’t want to hear about it.

I have a blessed life. My wife and I don’t need to worry about money or a job or the troubled children we never had or health issues and no one we love is dying this month. Living like this gives me the time to roam deeper into the human cerebral landscape and put it …

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Nov
04

How Much of You is Just for You?

By the time I hit college I had set up Irving Podolsky’s Three Rules of Survival. Rule #1: Always tell the truth. Rule #2: Just be ME. Don’t hide anything. Rule #3: Be nice to my sister. None of those rules work anymore. Considering Rule # 1, as I wrote in my post, Is Truth …

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Oct
29

How to Rate Your Value When You Have None

Yesterday and today I took final inventory of my father’s life’s possessions, and for that matter, his entire life. As I explained in my last post, he never threw anything away, apparently because those things were valuable to him. Perhaps his “toy” collection boosted his self esteem, like a growing bank account makes us feel …

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Oct
25

How to Want Gifts You Don’t Want

Dad left us last June. I stayed by his side for his last seven days and held his hand as he started to cool. Mom was in the family room trying to keep it together with the help of a close friend. She couldn’t handle Dad’s plunge and final burn-out. I couldn’t either but I …

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Oct
13

Where Ever You Are, I Hope You’re Happy

(Continued from: “Whatever Happened to Nina Pearlstein?”)   Nina tipped-toed to my bedside, still in her gown. I was already awake, dreading to ask one troubled question. “How bad is it?” “Mom wants you to leave.” “Wonderful…” I mumbled. “Did you get yelled at?” “She’s not talking. I told her I couldn’t sleep and that …

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Oct
09

Whatever Happened to Nina Pearlstein?

True story but names have been changed. I first met Nina Pearlstein in Camp Podolsky, a Jewish teen retreat. I don’t know what Christian summer camps are like, or Muslim teenager get-away’s or Zen kid camps. I don’t even know how Jewish summer camps are run today. I only know about the two I attended …

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Sep
26

How to Become Something You’re NOT

There are tons of advice books out there telling us how to better ourselves, how to systematically and psychologically change and progress. I’ve written posts about this, but they’re about dealing with crap BEFORE we change. I think that’s a lot more practical. I think most people are locked into what they are by twenty. …

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Sep
19

Trouble No More

This post is for super sensitive people like me who’s feelings get hurt. It’s another story about rejection and it may be yours too. ***** I’m a drummer. I joined a blues/country band eight months ago with Aaron, Rich and Robby the bass guitarist. By rehearsing once a week we’ve slowly built three sets and …

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Sep
15

If the Trust in Broken, Can You Ever Get it Back?

My wife said, “Give him another chance, Irv. Everyone deserves a second chance to get it right.” “Okay,” I said. “He’ll get a second chance. But he shouldn’t need one.” Nate came to us recommended. He should have known it was bad and his It’s-good-enough attitude bothers me. It bothers me because I like him. …

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