Category Archive: Ideas to Chew On

Dec
27

How to Start Your Own Religion

I promised myself I would write something cheery and uplifting this time, ‘cause it IS Holiday Week. But golly gee, I never liked the holidays. Any holiday. It’s a complicated story but traditional events don’t feel like they’re mine. When people invite me to their celebrations of joy and merriment, I’m not joyful or merry …

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Nov
24

Who told you that?

I’m stupid with foreign languages. Flunked French, faked my way through Spanish and really, really tried to learn German. I didn’t. Nothing stuck. Not good. My wife is German…from Germany, along with the rest of her family who visit us all the time, like they are now. My forty-something nephew and his wife are leaving …

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Nov
09

We Can Do It But We Turn It Off

I don’t think it’s just me. We all do it but we turn it off. There are reasons why people shut it down or ignore it. They don’t trust the power or they hope their feelings aren’t true because there’s much to lose if they are – things like more wealth, prestige or sex. There …

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Nov
04

How Much of You is Just for You?

By the time I hit college I had set up Irving Podolsky’s Three Rules of Survival. Rule #1: Always tell the truth. Rule #2: Just be ME. Don’t hide anything. Rule #3: Be nice to my sister. None of those rules work anymore. Considering Rule # 1, as I wrote in my post, Is Truth …

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Sep
19

Trouble No More

This post is for super sensitive people like me who’s feelings get hurt. It’s another story about rejection and it may be yours too. ***** I’m a drummer. I joined a blues/country band eight months ago with Aaron, Rich and Robby the bass guitarist. By rehearsing once a week we’ve slowly built three sets and …

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Sep
11

Seeking Older Man with Powerful Connections

I don’t know about you, but like millions of other Americans (and the rest of the world) I chased the American Dream for many years. I wanted to have enough cash and enough control or security so I wouldn’t have to worry about running out of anything. And of course, being the super nice-guy progressive …

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Sep
06

Are You Prejudice? No? You Sure?

I’m hurt and disappointed. I’m not disappointed about me. I’m disappointed about them. Four important people in my life are blowing me off. Apparently I have little value for them and they’re not thinking about what that means. Yet two of the four tell me they love me and I get hugs and kisses when …

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Aug
18

How to be Happy with 80-20 when Your Part is 20

“Why do you always feel diminished?” That’s what my mother said to me over the phone yesterday as she collapsed into sobs. The conversation was not supposed to be about me. We were talking again about my sister Rachel and her shattered life. Now suddenly I was the problem. My mother will be ninety-four this …

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Aug
16

How to Take Out the Garbage and Feel Good About It

This post is mostly about men, motivated men, men that are scared to fail. I can write about this because I’m one of those men, a guy who does his best because he doesn’t want to fuck up in public and have people think he’s less than what he wants to be. I feel good …

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Jul
25

What it’s Like to Live in a Thirty Second Universe

Last month my father’s life ended inside his Thirty Second Universe. At the age of 96 Dad’s dementia had reduced his short-term recall to half a minute. Within that time, a thought, a conversation, any decision was anchored in the world we lived in too. But beyond his memory edge where present events and exchanges …

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