Category Archive: Love & Family

Dec
11

WHY BAD PEOPLE DO NICE THINGS

Why do bad people do nice things? I don’t know why. They just do, at least the ones I personally know, the ones I call “friends”. They’re not close friends, thought. When they invite my wife and me to their homes, it’s just us and them. Our bad friends don’t mingle us with their other …

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Nov
28

Open Marriage – Is it Right for You?

I read the Huffington Post online. I read the Huffington Post because it links to other publications and because I never know what kind of story or blog I’ll find there. So a few days ago I was surfing the site and this headline snatched my attention. A Glimpse Into The Lives Of Couples With …

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Nov
09

We Can Do It But We Turn It Off

I don’t think it’s just me. We all do it but we turn it off. There are reasons why people shut it down or ignore it. They don’t trust the power or they hope their feelings aren’t true because there’s much to lose if they are – things like more wealth, prestige or sex. There …

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Nov
04

How Much of You is Just for You?

By the time I hit college I had set up Irving Podolsky’s Three Rules of Survival. Rule #1: Always tell the truth. Rule #2: Just be ME. Don’t hide anything. Rule #3: Be nice to my sister. None of those rules work anymore. Considering Rule # 1, as I wrote in my post, Is Truth …

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Oct
29

How to Rate Your Value When You Have None

Yesterday and today I took final inventory of my father’s life’s possessions, and for that matter, his entire life. As I explained in my last post, he never threw anything away, apparently because those things were valuable to him. Perhaps his “toy” collection boosted his self esteem, like a growing bank account makes us feel …

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Oct
25

How to Want Gifts You Don’t Want

Dad left us last June. I stayed by his side for his last seven days and held his hand as he started to cool. Mom was in the family room trying to keep it together with the help of a close friend. She couldn’t handle Dad’s plunge and final burn-out. I couldn’t either but I …

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Oct
19

Is truth overrated?

    Need more fingers. Can’t count anymore how many times I wished I recorded a disagreement with my wife. It’s always the same: Whatever the argument, the subject quickly changes to WHO started it, who’s the bad guy. We’re talking minutes here. After twenty sentences Wife and I have opposing memories and we’re both …

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Oct
13

Where Ever You Are, I Hope You’re Happy

(Continued from: “Whatever Happened to Nina Pearlstein?”)   Nina tipped-toed to my bedside, still in her gown. I was already awake, dreading to ask one troubled question. “How bad is it?” “Mom wants you to leave.” “Wonderful…” I mumbled. “Did you get yelled at?” “She’s not talking. I told her I couldn’t sleep and that …

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Oct
02

Ask Your Doctor If You’re Healthy Enough For Sex

Cialis and Viagra are selling youth-sex to old people. Well, actually not old people, just older people, or any male for that matter who wants harder and longer. What surprises me the most about TV ads showing mommy and daddy couples a minute from getting laid, is that those beautifully matured love birds look no …

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Sep
26

How to Become Something You’re NOT

There are tons of advice books out there telling us how to better ourselves, how to systematically and psychologically change and progress. I’ve written posts about this, but they’re about dealing with crap BEFORE we change. I think that’s a lot more practical. I think most people are locked into what they are by twenty. …

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