Category Archive: Love & Family

Sep
15

If the Trust in Broken, Can You Ever Get it Back?

My wife said, “Give him another chance, Irv. Everyone deserves a second chance to get it right.” “Okay,” I said. “He’ll get a second chance. But he shouldn’t need one.” Nate came to us recommended. He should have known it was bad and his It’s-good-enough attitude bothers me. It bothers me because I like him. …

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Sep
11

Seeking Older Man with Powerful Connections

I don’t know about you, but like millions of other Americans (and the rest of the world) I chased the American Dream for many years. I wanted to have enough cash and enough control or security so I wouldn’t have to worry about running out of anything. And of course, being the super nice-guy progressive …

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Sep
06

Are You Prejudice? No? You Sure?

I’m hurt and disappointed. I’m not disappointed about me. I’m disappointed about them. Four important people in my life are blowing me off. Apparently I have little value for them and they’re not thinking about what that means. Yet two of the four tell me they love me and I get hugs and kisses when …

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Aug
29

I’m not that nice. How about you?

On the one-to-ten Scale of NICENESS, where do you live? Are you nice to some people and not nice to others? Are you nice to yourself? What IS being nice?   I’ll admit it. I’m not that nice of a guy. A lot of people think I’m nice and many times I am. But too …

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Aug
22

The Big Secret Grandma and Grandpa Don’t Want You to Know

The secret? Here it is: Not everyone grows old but all bodies do. So what. You knew that. So if we all know it, why won’t we admit it? Reason: Either we’re young enough to worry about it sometime in the future, or we’re old enough to LIVE in that future and we’re pretending we’re …

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Aug
18

How to be Happy with 80-20 when Your Part is 20

“Why do you always feel diminished?” That’s what my mother said to me over the phone yesterday as she collapsed into sobs. The conversation was not supposed to be about me. We were talking again about my sister Rachel and her shattered life. Now suddenly I was the problem. My mother will be ninety-four this …

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Aug
08

WE’RE ALL FORGETTING…but we forgot that

My father died with practically no memory left in his brain. His mother, my grandmother, passed away having lost all of it. Will I end up that way too? That’s the wrong question. My memories have already betrayed me. And so have yours. ***** I’ve been forgetting things over the past few years, simple things …

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Jul
25

What it’s Like to Live in a Thirty Second Universe

Last month my father’s life ended inside his Thirty Second Universe. At the age of 96 Dad’s dementia had reduced his short-term recall to half a minute. Within that time, a thought, a conversation, any decision was anchored in the world we lived in too. But beyond his memory edge where present events and exchanges …

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Jul
14

Can You Love Your Dad When You Don’t?

I’ve been away from this blog for months. I ran out of stuff I wanted to write about. Then it happened. Now I’m writing. ***** From about the time I looked like my long haired avatar, I didn’t like my dad anymore. Lots of people did, though, and he had many guy friends. I couldn’t …

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Oct
31

It was Great While It Lasted

Yep. This blog was great while it lasted. But it’s time to close the store. It might open again at some time in the future. Maybe. But I don’t think anytime soon. For those of you who’ve been reading my thoughts over the past two years, I want you to know I wholly appreciated your …

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